Charlie's Birth Story
Every year on our kiddos’ birthdays when its just the five of us having cake at home we tell them about the day they were born. They all love it and always want us to tell all three of their stories no matter whose birthday it is. Here is Charlie’s story.
I remember it was a Wednesday because Andy had the day off and back then he had Wednesdays off from work. The day before that I had met with the doctor who was filling in for MY doctor who was on vacation. He had checked me and said, you are good but whatever you do … don’t have her tomorrow because I’m out of town. So of COURSE I went into labor that next day. We were at home and I was all sorts of emotional that day because Caleb was my world and I remember just being really sad about how that was all going to change. We had spent the last 16 months together every day just me and him. I was sad our little world was changing even though I was excited to have her.
We had lunch and I remember thinking I would get some freelance work done at my computer before I couldn’t any longer. I did some work, Andy brought me a blizzard from Dairy Queen and when I stood up my chair was a little wet. I was like well … maybe my water broke? I mean at that point of pregnancy it’s really hard to tell … could have just peed my pants a little. Andy went into full on let’s get to the hospital and I was like like no, I have a scheduled C-section next week this isn’t happening maybe I will take a shower. I showered and then realized I needed to go to the hospital just to amuse Andy. I had my Dad come watch Caleb and I tearfully said goodbye to him still thinking this was silly I will be back home in an hour. We got to the the hospital and sure enough my water had broke so it went into emergency C-section mode. Charlie was born less than 2 hours later and all was good. She was healthy and it the surgery went a lot smoother than it had with Caleb. She was the easiest birth wise of my three and we did great together in the hospital.
We got cleared to leave the hospital that Sat morning and I didn’t feel quite myself but I just had a baby and was going home to see my other baby so again, not thinking much of it. Pro-tip: always be completely honest with how you are feeling, even if you want to get home. I learned my lesson big time. That night I was an emotional wreck and by morning I couldn’t move without feeling really awful. I tried to put on a cheerful face for our visitors that were there to see Charlie but by mid day on Sunday I knew something was wrong. My sister was over taking photos of Charlie and I had told here there was no way I could attempt to do family photos that day and I sat in a chair struggling.
Andy took my temperature and it was 103 almost 104. We headed to the ER. I brought Charlie with me because I needed to nurse her soon and of course that was beyond stressful because I was in a lot of pain and she was a newborn. We didn’t have our vibe yet. I couldn’t straighten where my C-section incision was. I ended up being admitted and put on antibiotics for the night. When the doctor saw me the next morning he said told me the infection was bad and they would have to open the incision again. Another C-section? Honestly it was horrible. I had to have a wound vac because they couldn’t close the incision again and that was one of the worst experiences of my life. I never felt like my pain meds were working and in the middle of the night they would change the dressing and RIP off the tape of my infected wound.
If you thought having a baby was hard … this was next level. Through this entire time Charlie was an angel baby though and I luckily got to have her with me in the hospital. I ended up having to stay another week in the hospital and I had the wound vac attached to me for 8 awful weeks after that. I had to go in a few times emergency style to get the dressing changed and as time went on it got a little bit better. But not much, I don’t wish that on anyone. It affected everything more intensely about having a baby but I still had my sweet girl and her and Caleb became best friends and life was good.
I spare Charlie the wound vac story when I share her story on her birthday but maybe she will read this someday as a soon to be mother and know that nothing about pregnancy and birth goes as planned. Nothing. I didn’t enjoy being pregnant unfortunately and all three births were dramatic and hard but I have three healthy babies so it is honestly worth it. Crazy but so true. I love my little babies and I would do it all over again for each of them.